Patricia E. Kefalas Dudek
Advocate for Elders, People
with Disabilities
and Their Families


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Some of my Favorite Quotes
1. "The Potter books in general are a prolonged argument for tolerance, a prolonged plea for an end to bigotry, and I think it's one of the reasons that some people don't like the books, but I think that it's a very healthy message to pass on to younger people that you should question authority and you should not assume that the establishment or the press tells you all of the truth." ~ J.K. Rowling - from a speech at Carnegie Hall

2. "In matters of style, swim with the current; In matters of principle, stand like a rock." ~ Thomas Jefferson
3. "Life's unfairness is not irrevocable; we can help balance the scales for others, if not always for ourselves." ~ Hubert H. Humphrey

4. "It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others." ~ Sydney J. Harris, 1917-1986 - American Journalist

5. "The miracle is this - the more we share, the more we have." ~ Leonard Nimoy

6. "I don't believe in charity. I believe in solidarity. Charity is so vertical. It goes from the top to the bottom. Solidarity is horizontal. It respects the other person and learns from the other. I have a lot to learn from other people." ~ Eduardo Galeano, Uruguayan Author and Journalist

7. "You can't get where you're going unless you remember where you came from. Who you are and what you are is the only thing you own - Never lose it, and never…ever…surrender!" ~ Corey Hart

8. "This is Pity, he thought, and then he lifted his head in wonder. He thought that there must be something terribly wrong with a world in which this monstrous feeling is called a virtue." ~ Howard Rouke from The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

9. "To say I love you - one must know how to say "I". ~ Howard Rouke from The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
10. "To think by nobly of my grandmother: Good wombs have borne bad sons." ~ Mirand - from The Tempest by William Shakespeare
11. "There is no pain but to genuinely hurt a friend." ~ John Demko
12. "Reach beyond the stars; read between the stripes." ~ John Demko

13. To John Dudek: "Why (on Earth) would you want to be a would-be? Anyone who knows how to spell rose can be a romantic. Any Jesus freak with a hand grenade can change the world." ~ John Demko

14. "And I tell you more: whenever two of you on earth agree about anything you pray for, it will be done for you by my Father in Heaven. For where two or three come together in my name I am there with them." ~ Matthew Chapter 18: 19-20

15. "A story was told of two doctors, one of whom asked the other his opinion about the following case: A woman with tuberculosis was pregnant; the father had syphilis, four children had already been born….the first was blind, the second died at birth, the third was a deaf mute, the fourth had tuberculosis. "What would you have done?" the first doctor asked his colleague. "I would have terminated the pregnancy, "answered the second doctor. "Then," said the first, "You would have killed Beethoven."
16. "Essentially, I'm a very real person; good and bad. And the public image is one of being very good, I suppose. But one of the reasons I'm attracted to people like Martin Luther King, Jr., Gandhi, Christ, to pacifism, is because naturally, I'm the guy that would not turn the other cheek - but, when people see you're attracted to that, they think you are that." ~ Bono, Rolling Stone, May 7, 1987
17. "I know it hasn't been easy for you lately, and I can't even begin to tell you how much you've been on my mind. It isn't easy for me….feeling so far away from you when I want to be close enough to hold you, and look at you and to tell you with all my heart that everything's going to be alright." ~ Taine Parsons, card from Paul Evancho, August 1986
18. "Yes Bon Jovi, "All Townshend cared about was the music." The music industry could use more people like Pete Townshend who are concerned with good songs, not just good demographics. He has been making sure the kids are all right since you were in diapers, but he never manipulated them." ~ Patrick Marsh, Rolling Stone, July 2, 1987
19. "Critics write out of intellectual exercise, not poets. Poets write straight from the heart." ~ Erica Jong, Interview Magazine, June 1987
20. "You are always naked when you start writing; you are always as if you had never written anything before; you are always a beginner. Shakespeare wrote without knowing he would become Shakespeare." ~ Erica Jong, Interview Magazine, June 1987
21. "Most people in this country are looking for literature that is useful. They feel that just exploring their feelings is good enough - they should be reading about leveraged buy-outs or how to get thin. We live in a culture that is so absolutely, madly focused on commercialism and on creating money and completely turned away from any other kind of creative value. People don't generally turn to poetry unless they're bereaved or have fallen in love. Or in adolescence, when their feelings are very strong and turbulent. I think most of us are dying for lack of spirit in this culture." ~ Erica Jong, Interview Magazine, June 1987
22. "The American press exists for one purpose only, and that is to convince Americans that they are living in the greatest and most envied country in the history of the world. The Press tells the American people how awful every other country is and how wonderful the United States is and how evil communism is and how happy they should be to have freedom to buy seven different sorts of detergent." ~ Gore Vidal, Interview Magazine, June 1987
23. "Presidents have absolutely gone against the will of Congress. Congress hasn't declared a war since December 7, 1941, and yet we've been at war ever since with somebody or other in order to justify the war machine. Now we have alienated almost the entire earth." ~ Gore Vidal, Interview Magazine, June 1987
24. "I wanted to be a politician and a movie star. But I was born a writer. If you're born that, you can't change it. You're going to do it whether you want to or not." ~ Gore Vidal, Interview Magazine, June 1987
25. "People don't like him (John Poindexter) for the same reason they don't like me…If you get things done in this bureaucracy you step on toes." ~ Oliver North, Iran Contra Hearings, July 8, 1987
26. "Let there be beauty and strength, power and compassion, honor and humility, mirth and reverence within you." ~ Starhawk
27. "In America, disagreement with the policies of the government does not necessitate a lack of patriotism!" ~Senator Mitchell to Oliver North, Iran Contra Hearings
28. "The care of human life and happiness, and their destruction is the first and only legitimate object of a good government." ~ Thomas Jefferson
29. "What can I say to you today, what I have to say to you is that we need a new sense of urgency about the issue of social justice in this country." ~ Joe Stroud, Editor of The Detroit Free Press, Speech at conference Housing & Homeless, May 18, 1987
30. "To pursue happiness for its own sake is the surest way to lose it." ~ George Roche, President, Hillsdale College
31. "I am a Christian - but sometimes I feel very removed from Christianity. The Jesus Christ that I believe in was the man who turned over the tables in the temple and threw the money-changers out - substitute T.V. evangelists if you like…why in the West, do we spend so much money on extending the arms race instead of wiping out malaria, which could be eradicated given ten minutes worth of the world's arm budget? To me, we are living in the most un-Christian times. When I see these racketeers, the snake-oil salesmen on these right-winged television stations, asking for not your $20.00, or your $50.00, but your $100.00 in the name of Jesus Christ, I just want to throw up!!" ~ Bono, Rolling Stone Interview, October 1987
32. "Do you realize why is it I'm so driven to operate within the Establishment? It's vengeance. "Hope I die before I get old" is something I still have to live with, but not for the reason many people think. I have to be very, very vigilant not to become one of those people I despised." ~ Peter Townsend, Rolling Stone, Anniversary Issue
33. "Show me a thoroughly satisfied man - and I will show you a failure." ~ Thomas Alva Edison
34. "America is a land where a citizen will cross the ocean to fight for democracy - and won't cross the street to vote in a national election." ~ Bill Vaughen
35. "Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition." ~ Timothy Leary
36. "Without art, the crudeness of reality would make the world unbearable!!" ~ George Bernard Shaw
37. "Are you in a bad mood? Don't you wanna talk about it? Did I say somethin' rude? You don't have to cry about it. Aren't you feelin' okay? Would you like a little company? Or did you have a bad day? Are you mad at me? Let it show. Don't tell me nothing. I don't want to know there's nothing I hate more than nothing. Nothing keeps me up at night, I toss and turn over nothing. Nothing could cause a great big fight. Hey - what's the matter? Don't tell me nothing." ~ Nothing by Edie Brickell
38. "Life is what happens while you are making other plans." ~ John Lennon
39. "If we stand passively by while the centre of each city becomes a hive of depravation, crime and hopelessness…if we become two people, the suburban affluent and the urban poor, each filled with mistrust and fear for the other…then we shall effectively cripple each generation to come." ~ Lyndon Johnson told Congress that in 1965
40. "If a law is unconstitutional, it is no less unconstitutional because it is a product of Congress." ~ Justice Stewart
41. "Our nation had had a long and unfortunate history of sex discrimination. Traditionally, such discrimination was rationalized by an attitude of romantic paternalism, which in practical effect put women not on a pedestal, but in a cage." ~ Justice William Brennan
42. "Every idea is an incitement. It offers itself for belief and if believed it is acted on unless some other belief outweighs it or some failure of energy stifles the movement at birth. Eloquence may set fire to reason." ~ Justice Holmes
43. "It takes more than going down to the video store and renting "Easy Rider" to be a rebel." ~ Dennis Hopper as Hughie in the movie "Flashback"
44. "Write the Truth" - Virginia Harmen (when I told her I wanted to be a writer and I did not know what I want to write).
45. "The highest thought is always that thought which contains joy. The clearest words are those words which contain truth. The grandest feeling is that feeling which you call love." ~ Neale Donald Walsch - Conversations with God
46. "After all, to the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." ~ J.K. Rowling, "The Man with Two Faces," Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, 1997, spoken by the character Albus Dumbledore
47. "Peter Pettigrew had the chance to be one of the good guys - a chance to be like his idols James and Sirius. But he let cowardice and greed lead him to the Darkside. ~ Mugglenet.com (about a main "Harry Potter" character's struggle with good and evil)
48. "If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music, which he hears, however measured or faraway. ~ Henry David Thoreau
49. "You cannot simultaneously prevent and prepare for war." ~ Albert Einstein
50. "Who is rich? He that is content. Who is that? Nobody." ~ Benjamin Franklin
51. "If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I wouldn't pass it around. Wouldn't be doing anybody a favor. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don't say embrace trouble. That's as bad as treating it as an enemy. But I do say, meet it as a friend, for you'll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
52. "There are millions of Americans who are clever and fearless, but the trouble is they are only four years old." ~ Author Unknown
53. "A life spent in making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." ~ George Bernard Shaw
54. "Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. What we think of ourselves, this is what determines, or rather indicates, our fate. ~ Henry David Thoreau
55. "When you accept yourself, the whole world accepts you." ~ Lao Tzu
56. "I thought I could change the world. It took me a hundred years to figure out I can't change the world. I can only change Bessie. And honey, that ain't easy either." ~ Annie Elizabeth (Bessie) Delany
57. "The only way to get what you really want, is to know what you really want. And the only way to know what you really want, is to know yourself. And the only way to know yourself, is to be yourself. And the only way to be yourself is to listen to your heart." ~ Mike Dooley
58. It would be curious to discover who it is to whom one writes in a diary. Possibly to some mysterious personification of one's own identity. ~ Beatrice Webb
59. It's the good girls who keep the diaries; the bad girls never have the time. ~ Tallulah Bankhead
60. Action is the antidote to despair. ~ Joan Baez
61. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. ~ Lucille Ball
62. I didn't belong as a kid, and that always bothered me. If only I'd known that one day my differentness would be an asset, then my early life would have been much easier. ~ Bette Midler
63. To love deeply in one direction makes us more loving in all others. ~ Madame Swetchine
64. But surely for everything you love you have to pay some price. ~ Agatha Christie
65. "Stay" is a charming word in a friend's vocabulary. ~ Louisa May Alcott
66. I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing. ~ Agatha Christie
67. Fiction reveals truths that reality obscures. ~ Jessamyn West
68. "Too much and too long, we seem to have surrendered community excellence and community values in the mere accumulation of material things. Our gross national product ... if we should judge America by that - counts air pollution and cigarette advertising, and ambulances to clear our highways of carnage. It counts special locks for our doors and the jails for those who break them. It counts the destruction of our redwoods and the loss of our natural wonder in chaotic sprawl. It counts napalm and the cost of a nuclear warhead, and armored cars for police who fight riots in our streets. It counts Whitman's rifle and Speck's knife, and the television programs which glorify violence in order to sell toys to our children. Yet the gross national product does not allow for the health of our children, the quality of their education, or the joy of their play. It does not include the beauty of our poetry or the strength of our marriages; the intelligence of our public debate or the integrity of our public officials. It measures neither our wit nor our courage; neither our wisdom nor our learning; neither our compassion nor our devotion to our country; it measures everything, in short, except that which makes life worthwhile. And it tells us everything about America except why we are proud that we are Americans." ~ Sen. Robert Francis Kennedy - March 18, 1968
Here's a quote everyone should know:

“I live in Alexandria, Virginia. Near the Supreme Court chambers is a toll bridge across the Potomac. When in a rush, I pay the dollar toll and get home early. However, I usually drive outside the downtown section of the city and cross the Potomac on a free bridge. This bridge was placed outside the downtown Washington, DC area to serve a useful social service, getting drivers to drive the extra mile and help alleviate congestion during the rush hour. If I went over the toll bridge and through the barrier without paying the toll, I would be committing tax evasion ... If, however, I drive the extra mile and drive outside the city of Washington to the free bridge, I am using a legitimate, logical and suitable method of tax avoidance, and am performing a useful social service by doing so. For my tax evasion, I should be punished. For my tax avoidance, I should be commended. The tragedy of life today is that so few people know that the free bridge even exists." ~ Justice Louis Brandeis

Best Poem Ever - by Maya Angelou
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year.. .